{"id":3865,"date":"2022-09-12T17:50:57","date_gmt":"2022-09-12T15:50:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/how-to-live.de\/?p=3865"},"modified":"2022-09-12T17:52:24","modified_gmt":"2022-09-12T15:52:24","slug":"dostoevsky-zitat-lieben-und-leiden","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/how-to-live.de\/en\/dostoevsky-quote-love-and-suffer\/","title":{"rendered":"Dostoevsky about loving and suffering"},"content":{"rendered":"

Fyodor Dostoevsky<\/strong> wrote a lot and so we have quotes from him that still influence us today. In Notes from the cellar hole<\/em> he wrote the following quote. But why was he of this opinion and what can we ourselves learn from it? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dostoevsky, by the way, also had brilliant views on how to find a reason to live. You can learn more here<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\"To love is to suffer, and there can be no other way to love\".<\/p>Fyodor Dostoevsky<\/strong><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

When we truly love another person and do not just want to satisfy our physical desire, we want the best for them. We want the other person to be well and sacrifice ourselves for them in a certain way. We also show our vulnerable sides when we spend a long time with a person. This inevitably happens because no human being is perfect and the more time you spend with someone else, the more likely it is that we will also show weaknesses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So we give up control of our metaphorical heart and trust that the other person thinks and feels the same way. This can be applied not only to Eros<\/em> (the physical love) but also Philia<\/em> (the friendly love) as well as Storge<\/em> (the family love). As soon as we approach another person, we lower our shield. We invite the other person into our home, so to speak. Through this, it can also happen, dramatically speaking, that we are stabbed or poisoned in our sleep. Of course, it can also happen just as well that the other person cleans up our house and makes it nicer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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